Vulnerability is the New Sexiness
“Vulnerability is when a person willingly takes the risk to reveal their emotions and weaknesses,” according to Verywell Mind.
I was never fond of being vulnerable, especially in romantic relationships. The thought of sharing my emotions and weaknesses made me nervous. I didn’t understand why. Unfortunately, this avoidance prevented my past relationships from growing, and they ultimately didn’t work out. I was scared of being vulnerable, so I avoided it altogether.
The same article quoted above also says
“If you don’t allow yourself to be vulnerable, your partner can’t be expected to understand what you need and want from them,” notes Foos. She adds, “They will undoubtedly respond in unsatisfactory ways. And then, because you don’t feel supported, you can resent them and blame them rather than owning your feelings. And then, before you begin to be vulnerable, you’ve got a knot to unwind.”
I decided to work on my trauma before I signed up on a dating app Hinge. I did not want to repeat same mistakes I made. Dating is not cheap either. I wan to make sure I am attracted to a right person and become more capable of handling my own emotions better. I learned that I had a sense of abandonment, defectiveness, emotional deprivation and relentless standards issue (Everything needs to be perfect). I clearly have a lot…
