Journey on Dating App: Month 2 — Why we fail

Hana Kobayashi
3 min readMay 14, 2024
Generated by AI

“Data from Pew Research Center has found that 47% of Americans say dating is harder now than it was 10 years ago.”

This is such an ironic statistic considering meeting new people become far easier. You just need to swipe right and left to find matches and chat from the living room. Yet, we have astounding facts that people find dating harder.

In my second month on the Hinge dating app, I’ve experienced both highs and lows in my quest for a meaningful connection. While I’ve encountered dead ends with some matches, I’ve also found a promising connection that has sparked a month-long journey of dating and discovery. Reflecting on this experience, I’ve gained valuable insights into what works and what boosts confidence in the world of online dating. Here’s a detailed breakdown:

  1. Start with Basic Conversation FORM:

Initiating conversations on dating apps can sometimes feel like navigating a minefield, but I’ve learned that starting with simple, basic questions is key. Rather than diving into intense interrogation or checklist-mode, I’ve found success in keeping things light and enjoyable. Beginning with topics like family, occupation, recreation, and money (acronym FORM) sets a comfortable tone for both parties. It’s not about ticking boxes; it’s about genuinely enjoying the conversation and…

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Hana Kobayashi
Hana Kobayashi

Written by Hana Kobayashi

Migrated to Australia. Passionate about financial independence, psychology, career and relationship.