Game of Date: Antidotes to Modern Complex Dating

Hana Kobayashi
4 min readJul 27, 2024
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Three months ago, I embarked on a journey to find a romantic partner, encouraged by my mentor. Initially, I was skeptical. I was already content with my life and didn’t see the need for a partner. At first, I thought it was a waste of time.

Although dating remains a lower priority for me, I’ve met some wonderful people through dating apps and meetup events, and I’m beginning to understand why my mentor urged me to pursue this path. Meeting potential dates has helped me reassess my insecurities and build resilience in the face of uncertainty. Along the way, I’ve learned several invaluable lessons:

The Importance of Working on Yourself

As obvious as it sounds, it takes two to tango. If you’re attracted to someone, they need to feel the same way. With so many options on dating apps, it’s easy to feel that the attraction is one-sided. I often found myself overthinking why I hadn’t heard back from someone in a few hours, worrying if I had done something wrong or if they had moved on.

I realised that dating isn’t really about the other person. It’s about making the right choices for ourselves. We need to focus on improving ourselves, which in turn offers us more options. If you feel insecure about your appearance, work on it. If you struggle with feelings of…

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Hana Kobayashi
Hana Kobayashi

Written by Hana Kobayashi

Migrated to Australia. Passionate about financial independence, psychology, career and relationship.