Art of Modern Dating —from being ghosted to being chased
My journey to find a partner began in April 2024. I signed up for a dating app and attended meetups over the past 10 months, meeting people through both channels. I went on several dates, but none had a lasting impact — all the men I met, unfortunately, ghosted me. I have to admit that once I started developing feelings, I began chasing after them, becoming needy and anxious.
I spoke to my mentor, a man who practices psychotherapy, and he encouraged me to continue dating. I asked for his advice and also read The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. While I haven’t found my soulmate yet, I’ve definitely regained confidence in dating.
Here are three key principles I learned:
- There are plenty of men — don’t get hung up on just one.
- Never chase men.
- Keep it fun and casual.
Initially, I thought these were simple but difficult to follow — and I wished they weren’t true. However, after embarking on this journey to find a partner, I’ve come to realise how accurate they are. Since adopting these principles, I’ve noticed that men are now chasing me instead of ghosting me. There are also tricks to follow these principles.
It’s Not About You
