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5 lessons I learned from a failed relationship
“You can’t just give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships are not great because they have no problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to work on solving them.” — Unknown
My partner and I split up about a few weeks ago. We were together for four years. However, we decided not to continue. No relationship is perfect however we all need to know when enough is enough. I would like you to learn the red flags so you can have a more meaningful relationship with someone more suitable more quicker.
He had a dog for 13 years. When I met him, his dog was so active and energetic. However, she became suddenly sick because of old age last year; my partner (now my ex) was very upset about her dying. But at the same time, my family back home started to go through hardship and it soon became challenging to mentally stay strong. Shortly after, he had gone to the emergency hospital twice. The paramedic advised him there was nothing wrong with his physical health and tentatively concluded that he had a panic attack. He refused to get any further medical assistance as he did not trust medical professionals. I did my best to be with him and support him while I was on the verge of an emotional breakdown because of my family situation. It became so hard to have a conversation because I did not know what caused the panic attacks. What upset me the most was that he never once asked how my family was or how I was coping. When he decided to put the dog down, his family came over (he insisted on having his family with him). I learned from his mom that he once tried to commit suicide because his ex-girlfriend broke up with him. This is when I started to question if I was in the right relationship. I oversaw a lot of red flags. Here are red flags we all should be aware of before it’s too late.
- There is no future plan
I am not talking about getting married or having a family future plan. We never had a proper yearly plan — when and where we go for a holiday or what we do on a weekend. It was always a last-minute thing. Don’t get me wrong, I love spontaneous things but there are some times we can enjoy life better if we plan well. He also did not have clear visions about his life. Every time he faced difficulty, his immediate reaction was to move…
