3 things happened when I stop being a ‘Yes’ person

I was born and raised in Japan. Being nice and saying ‘Yes’ is definitely a normal thing there. I was so used to say ‘Yes’ even I’m not comfortable or reaching my limit because I didn’t want to look bad.

Even I didn’t want to hang out with this person I would say ‘Yes’. I felt dreadful and tired later on. I think this is an universal thing. With COVID is still happening, many of us are under pressure trying to please everyone – work, family, and friends.

I was definitely an expert in saying ‘yes’ not long ago.

I didn’t want to stay back for work, I would say yes to work overtime. I absolutely had no after work life. I was constantly complaining how horrible my work was.

My ex-partner and I constantly argued as I didn’t express myself enough. I was busy being a ‘nice’ person.

I didn’t feel like helping this person because I wasn’t well but I did anyway and I felt very sick later on. My ex partner and I constantly argued because I never expressed myself as I wanted to be ‘nice’ to him all the time.You may come across similar situations.

I was very miserable and always made others responsible.

After reading many self-help books, I realised I caused all these negative experiences because I never knew when or how to say ‘No’.